The Stigma of Men in Massage

Let’s be honest—being a male massage therapist still comes with baggage. Even though massage is one of the oldest healing practices on the planet, outdated perceptions make it harder for men in this field to just do their job: help people feel better.

At Stress Less Massage, we don’t dodge this conversation. We walk straight into it—because if we’re going to create a space where every client feels safe and cared for, then we also have to stand up for every therapist on our team.

The Elephant in the Room: Comfort & Safety

Here’s the truth: a lot of people—especially women—feel more comfortable booking with a female therapist. And that’s okay. Comfort is personal. Everyone deserves to feel safe, grounded, and fully relaxed in their body. That’s kind of the whole point.

But here’s the other side of it: male therapists often get fewer bookings, deal with unfair assumptions, and constantly feel the pressure to “prove” they’re safe, skilled, and professional.

Some of the Assumptions We’ve Faced:

• “He’s probably too rough or strong.”

• “It might feel awkward.”

• “Massage from a guy just feels... different.”

Spoiler: it’s not supposed to feel different. Good massage feels safe, skillful, and supportive—no matter who’s giving it.

Here’s the Reality

Male therapists can be gentle. Intuitive. Warm. Technical. Quiet. Energetic. Relaxing. Focused.

Just like any other therapist, every one of them brings their own unique strengths to the table (literally). And they all got into this work for the same reason: to help people feel better in their bodies.

Why We’re Talking About This

Because this stuff matters. It shapes how care is given, how it’s received, and who feels welcome in the space.

Because if we want to break the stigma around who deserves healing, we also have to break the stigma around who provides it.

What We Believe at Stress Less Massage

• Your preferences matter—and we respect them without judgment.

• All our therapists are here because they’re excellent at what they do.

• Creating a space of safety and respect goes both ways—client and therapist.

If you’ve never gotten a massage from a male therapist, that’s okay. But maybe someday, give it a shot—when you’re ready. You might be surprised by how healing it feels.

Because compassion isn’t gendered. And neither is care.